Monday, September 20, 2010

Sniff

This is an Edinburgh holiday and I'm sitting in a cold study making up schedules of work. If I finish this any time soon I shall go into the slightly warmer kitchen and do lots of marking and make up some lessons.

Outside, the sun is shining and the flowers are blooming, approximately as above. I would rather be there. Or almost anywhere.

I am feeling very sorry for myself, not only because of the above but because various things are a bit rubbish at the moment, mainly connected with missing our children and wishing they would all come and live the rest of their lives next door to us. Which isn't looking likely.

I know lots of people have vastly worse lives than I do and that I have no real justification for feeling particularly sad, but I do. So if you can be bothered, I'd like some sympathy.

Thank you.

Back to work.

21 comments:

Rachel @ SuburbanYogini said...

I don't know if this will be any consolation but eventually after I'd done everything I needed to do for myself in Australia/London/various other locales I moved back to Cambridge down the road from my parents because I missed them.

Good things are worth waiting for :)

Much love xx

Scottish Nanna said...

Dont feel sad They will always come to see you.just dont let them go to far.Like go to australia Like I did.50 years ago And I never saw my mum again .Just be happy they are not to far away.My thoughts are with you.
Hugs Mary.

fifi said...

There, there. Poor you.
(gives a comforting hug)
You're allowed to feel sad.

But you DO have Mr Life and he is lovely and not going anywhere..

Lucille said...

My mother filled the house with other people's children (student lodgers). At the time I felt rather edged out but I now see it as her form of self- preservation. It kept the nest full. It's a horrid time of adjustment. We are nearly at the tipping point and there's nothing I can do to stop it. I hope your day improves and that you are sitting somewhere warmer now. I do feel for you.

Joyce said...

I know how you feel. My daughter moved to Australia about 15 years ago and now there are two grandchildren there. Thankfully the other three kids and 7 grandchildren live close. Thanks goodness for Skype and Facebook.
Maybe yours will move back closer to home. You can never tell.
You have my sympathy for all the marking as well. Thank goodness for retirement.

persiflage said...

The separation causes such pain and aching, and as a fellow sufferer I send hugs and loads of sympathy. My second daughter and children were here for the weekend, which was lovely, and now that they have gone home again I feel bereft, morose, sorry for myself. Etcetera, despite the fact that I am about to go away myself.
There seem to be many people who have come over to our delectable part of the world.

Ann said...

Still waiting to hear if son-in-law got the job in the States so I'm veering between brave and encouraging and plain downright miserable! What's wrong with living your whole life next door to your Mum, for goodness sake! Hugs :)

Linds said...

I am sending a huge hug.....

The Lass said...

Lots and lots of warm hugs!

Loth said...

You have my sympathy, really you do. But Daughter 1 is not too far away and when she is further away she leaves you guinea pigs to keep you occupied so you don't miss her too much. Very thoughtful. And I'll meet you for coffee and consoling whenever we can synchronise our schedules.

Fran said...

Arrgh, I know, I know. We are seeing our youngest (20) off to Japan for a year on Sunday. *Goes to fetch more tissues.* It just drags yer down, that kinda heartache.

Stomper Girl said...

It's all right to feel sad, and you do have my sympathy. I think about our kids moving far away from us and it makes me feel cold inside.

Rosemary Riveter said...

You have my sympathy. If I could send you some bottled sunshine from SoCal, I would. We have extra.

meghs said...

Loads of sympathy and hugs!

Molly said...

There, there, pat, pat....My heart bleeds. If I sound a little hard hearted, it's because the OC has also left, [the children being already irretrievably scattered] for a temporary two-year stint in the Very-Cold-Most-of-the-Year-North.....So, yes. If you get more sympathy than you need, you can pass the excess this way. Sniff.

dianne said...

there, there. poor sweet baby ...


p.s. - i'm not sure about the "there, there" part - it used to make me feel better but now i'm wondering, "where?!? where?!?"

herhimnbryn said...

Dear Mrs life,
Sympathy, tea and cake sent.
Take a break (just an hour) and get out into the garden. You know that digging helps blow the cobwebs away.

Thimbleanna said...

Well, dearest Isabelle, it looks like you have lots of sympathy. And you KNOW I offer lots too, as I share your melancholy! XOXO

Suse said...

It sounds to me as if you need to cuddle a sleek black cat in the sunshine for a while.

In your sitooterie, perhaps.

Anonymous said...

Hello, dear fellow worrier and mother. Isabelle, you do have my sympathy, I understand you too well. And I think we do have the right to be sad too, it's just not about being happy when kids are gone and one should start a new happy life. It just doesn't work like this. At least not for me. Me, I'm here in Vienna and my younger son is working and studying in Finland. I want him to be happy and of course I'm proud, but I just don't like this distance! :-)
Brigitte

Gina E. said...

Oh Isabelle, I don't like to think of you being sad. No kids of my own, but I have heard the same story from various friends many a time, and I don't know what to say, so I just give them a big hug when I see them.
So, more hugs from Down Under, and I'm sure the Catlets will be pleased to have extra cuddles.