Saturday, January 26, 2019

Waving

This isn't going to be my last ever post, but I'm seriously considering whether I'll stop blogging quite soon. The main reason is that my blog is largely a record of our family life, for my own - what? - pleasure? interest? sense of continuity? - probably all of these. And maybe for my descendants in the future. Mr L keeps suggesting that we should get it printed so that, if they wanted to, they could find out what the family was doing at the beginning of the 21st century. It's quite a good idea. (Mind you, it would be quite a long read.) 

Because I can't post pictures of Middle Granddaughter and won't be able to post them of the forthcoming Smaller Grandson, this makes it a much less satisfactory record. 

Also, I increasingly feel that the older grandchildren, now 7 and nearly 6, shouldn't appear in a recognisable form in a public blog, so I mostly post pictures of them from behind and so on, whereas I would like them to appear (for history's sake) in more meaningful photos. 

So I won't stop writing this account of our lives, but it might be better from the photo point of view just to write it as a Word document with clear photos, and print it for myself. After all, there are so many lovely photos in my computer, but how many of them will actually survive changes in technology? - not that many, I'd imagine.

I've been blogging for, I think, 12 years now, and almost all of my original bloggy friends have fallen by the wayside as far as blogging is concerned. One has died. Some have faded out. Some of them are now Facebook friends. But Facebook, though I do enjoy it, isn't the same. It's too easy to post a few photos and make jovial remarks about them - rather than to compose a longer, sometimes more thoughtful piece. I had a real sense of connection in the earlier days, with lots of comments to and fro and a feeling of sharing people's lives. 

Most of those who do still blog do it increasingly rarely. You know who you are! So I keep hopefully going to their blogs and - finding nothing to read. Though I will continue to do this for the occasional happy surprises. 

Part of me feels that I should therefore stubbornly continue; that blogging is (was?) a valuable thing and that I shouldn't join the defectors. But there are few comments on my blog nowadays and I don't feel I know who reads it - a fair number, I think, but who are they, and why would they want to know about my grandchildren? 

However, the main reason for stopping is my desire to keep a record of our family life, complete with photos of all our grandchildren. I've always felt the need to record things, to write, to communicate, and now I'm thinking of the communication with - hopefully - my descendants once I'm no longer here. 


Meanwhile, here are two of my darlings - Biggest Granddaughter playing with the dolls' house


or deep in books.


Grandson arranging his Brio into layouts


and drawing trains with excellent restaurant cars. 


Wistfulness has also been fostered by going through my parents' effects. This photo is of my parents in 1996. Mum was 74 - she really doesn't look it. That was the natural colour of her hair - it only started turning grey when she was in her late 80s.  Dad was 76 here. It's nice to see them enjoying the sun in Portugal but it makes me sad too, of course.

Anyway, things change. I can't quite bring myself to stop this very weekend. But that's the way I'm thinking.


24 comments:

  1. I still enjoy reading about your family and always enjoy their art work.
    I also like seeing views of the Scottish countryside and museums and your garden.

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  2. Please don't stop blogging. I have been lurking around your blog for years and always enjoy seeing your grandchildren and being envious of all the walks, beautiful scenery and museums around Edinburgh. My now middle aged son always played with train sets as a child and still has a train set taking up all of his spare bedroom. He now works for state rail and spends his time as a train guard riding around on trains all day. Your grandson reminds me of him.

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  3. I read everything and enjoy it! I don't know why - perhaps because your life is very different but at the same time very similar in what you think is important? You have a wonderful way with words and observations. My blog is a bit the same - not many readers, less about the kids now they're older, but still I continue.

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  4. I hope you keep on blogging, I've been blogging about 12 years too. One question I have about blogs, how long will they be accessible once a blogger stops. I would like to think they would be accessible to our descendants a hundred years from now, but I do wonder about that.

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  5. Hope you don't quit blogging, I enjoy you blog, with or without pix.

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  6. Keep on blogging.. and do have a hard copy printed for your family..it's so easy for things to disappear into the ether.
    I don't use people's real names in my blog, usually.
    Blogs develop over the years.. keep going and you may surprise yourself!

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  7. Oh no! Another defector! Don't go, I need company for my own increasingly rare posts. I know, I'm one of the guilty, and FB just doesn't do it for me. I'll keep it up if you do….You can keep your family record private in addition to blogging about other things, the Scottish countryside, your lovely walks (which make me green with jealousy!) books etc. Don't abandon me!

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  9. Sorry, trying again with my comment - major typo that wouldn't edit! I've been reading your blog for many years now although I'm guilty of rarely commenting so not much encouragement for you! Fell in love with Edinburgh when we visited a few years ago - it seems such a fine city in the very best meaning of the word 'fine". I enjoy your posts of the grandchildren and your life, family, walking, etc, greatly. However, I do understand your concerns around posting photos of the children online - having worked n the communications sector for many years, it's not something to take lightly.Printing off your blog is a very good idea though; I'm sure your family will appreciate the permanent record!

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  10. I loved your blog so much! Some people have a special talent for making themselves real people and you are one of them. Being a grandmother myself I do enjoy reading about your grandchildren, about your lovely walks, about your garden and family. But I know it can be discouraging when not many people comment or post on their own blogs less and less frequently. But I plan to continue, even though from time to time I have taken a bit of a break. (But not too long a break. That can make it tough to get back.)
    One of my daughters made a book a year of her family, though lately she has not done it because life has become pretty busy for her. But these are treasures for her family. My mil's mother (born in the 1870s) was an amateur photographer and made albums for her children and relatives and they are such treasures now! I know anything you did along those lines would be a great gift for all your family...
    The photo of your mother made me smile because today is my 74th birthday...(Just managed to avoid sharing it with Burns!)

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  11. Oh, I do hope you don't throw in the towel. I read every one of your posts, even if I don't always comment. Like you, I tend to use my own blog as a journal, though really it's an outlet for writing about anything I choose and just taking the time to sit and focus for a while (and maybe after pressing 'publish' raising a smile somewhere out there). I do hope you stick with writing and taking pictures and sharing (so many 'old friends' seem to have migrated to Instagram which isn't for me). You'd be missed.

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  12. Hi. I haven't blogged for a very long time, mainly because of time restraints, but also due to Twitter (tut!) However, I always love your blog and keeping up to date on you and your growing family. I hope you continue to write, even if the photos become a bit more cryptic!

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  13. Your blog can be made open to invited readers only, so that it's under your control. I feel that it's good to leave a footprint for my grandchildren, especially as one of them can read it for herself now, but it doesn't have to be open to all.
    I share your concerns about publishing identifiable photographs, and hope I have never done so.

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    1. Yes, I do wonder about that; thanks. But I'm not sure that I know how to do this and am also not sure about the security of it. But it's a thought. I still wouldn't be allowed to post photos of one family's children, though, I imagine.

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  14. Okay, here's the thing. Your blog CAN be a major work, printed for posterity. Your blog CAN be just a place where you go do air out your brain. It doesn't have to be one, or the other, it can be both, or sometimes one, sometimes something completely different.

    Over the years (and years) of blogging, I have seen so many great blogfriends disappear because they suddenly view the blog as a "responsibility" or a "chore" or something that they have to "manage".

    Don't quit blogging - just let your blog time be whatever it needs to be, when you need it. If you don't feel like writing a post every day, then don't! If you want to write an entire post about the size of the dust bunnies you found under your sewing table, then do!

    Just don't stop blogging.

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  15. I started reading you two months ago. I enjoy reading about your life and your grandchildren. I have never left a comment though.

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  16. Reading your blog has brought much pleasure to me. Love seeing your town, all it has to offer in the arts, and the beautiful scenery. Also, I've followed you since your 1st grand child was born and am so surprised at how quickly time has passed and they have grown. I've never had a blog but fully understand the thought of not knowing who is lurking about seeing pics of your precious grand babies. My parents (and sisters) were born in England and I sometimes wonder how different my life might have been if we grew up in the UK. ( I know you are in Scotland.). We are close in age so there are many reasons I follow your blog. I will miss your posts but fully understand your reasoning if you stop. Patty McDonald

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  17. I used to be a dedicated blogger then life became rather busy, looking after one of our grandchildren full-time from the time he was 16 months old. Now he is at school and I have more time (apparently!) I am trying to pick up the pieces again. It would be sad to abandon it completely.

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  18. I would love for you to continue blogging because I enjoy glimpses of your life(whatever you want to share), photos of your walks, and the wonderful way you express yourself. I find blogging therapeutic, and enjoy reading about other people's homes, cities and families. However, you have to do what suits you best. I would be very sad to see you go.

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  19. Anonymous12:02 am

    I have been reading your diary for a long time, primarily because of your documentation of your grandchildren and what you go out and do with them, in the knowledge that I shall never have any. Also because of my love of your country, when I enjoy the pictures you post of my beloved Scotland, quite a claim for a Welshwoman, don't tell anyone!

    I will certainly be sad if you stop blogging but I do respect your right to do so. Thank you for all that you have written and shared, it has all been appreciated.

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  20. You have to do what feels right for you, but thank you for your posts. Thinking about it, I realise I enjoy them because you express with enthusiasm your rich, but ‘normal’ life, and your blogs about your lovely grandchildren helped me enjoy mine - and accept that having them as such a special part of my life was normal. (Therefore I was normal!) we have been to Edinburgh- a long time ago - so I recognise some of the places you walk.
    Thank you for letting us into your life. I do hope you go on blogging, even occasionally.
    Virginia

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  21. I think I can count myself as one of your long time readers and I would be very sad to see you fade out here. I do understand though about the discretion you have to use, that makes the record seem incomplete. I find it difficult to write about the grandchildren because I don't really know who is out there reading. The page views say one thing about numbers, the comment box quite another these days. I do enjoy taking photos though and continue to put those up from time to time as a record for myself and for the enjoyment of anyone out there who is still looking in. In my case Instagram has been a rather too easy alternative to sitting down at my clunky computer and I am astonished at the numbers who look there after such a short time.

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  22. I'm over here chuckling because, look at all these comments! I think you know where I stand on the possibility that you wouldn't blog anymore -- Perish the thought! What would I do without my beloved Scotland updates??? I've had the same thoughts as you (although I know me and if I want to have a continued record of any kind, I have to keep posting -- I've tried keeping a journal in the past and it never lasts -- I think it's because you can so easily link words and photos in a blog post and I'm a visual person.) I'm one of your guilty friends who blogs less frequently -- eldercare has filled so much of my spare time these past few years. I'm hoping I'll get back to more posts about real life (not just things I've made) when I retire and have more time for real life. ;-D (Oooh, it's just occurred to me, if you did stop blogging (which is forbidden) I could justify popping round for a visit more often LOLOL.)

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  23. Oh, my! I do hope that you continue to blog, but I understand all of your points very well. I blog rarely, but I use my blog sort of as you do... as a diary of my life. I have NEVER been very good at keeping a diary! I may post once every couple of months, and I get no comments or views, but I'm not doing it for public response, so that doesn't matter. I DO enjoy your posts as I absolutely love Scotland and truly enjoy seeing your photos and comments. I understand perfectly about sharing less of the grandchildren... sadly,that has become a safety issue. In order to encourage YOU, I will attempt to post more often. Lord knows I have been busy enough to have things to post... the photo list in my phone camera tell me that! Blessings!

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