Wednesday, August 15, 2012

The circle of life


My mum died yesterday at 1.45 pm. Mr Life and I were with her. It's a time of very mixed emotions - relief that she's freed from her sad state and sadness that she's gone.


Earlier that morning, Daughter 1 went for the first scan of her second pregnancy. Here is Grandson's little sibling, so far known in the family as Volume Two, which is what's written on the front of his/her medical notes.

And so the world turns... .

47 comments:

Thimbleanna said...

Oh Isabelle. And So it goes. Now you've made me cry -- so sad, yet so excited for another baby! TheManoftheHouse was quite saddened by your news -- he said our visit with your Mum was the part of our trip that he will remember the most. You seem to be in a year of very big events. Big, Big Hugs coming your way!

Annie said...

My heart goes out to you - such mixed emotions assail you at these times. Take comfort from the fact that she knew you were there and looking out for her. And rejoice in Volume 2! x

Jane said...

Doors closing and doors opening. So sorry about your Mum, Isabelle, but congratulations to all for Volume 2

besomom said...

I am very sorry about your mother. From what I know, she lived a full life, and how wonderful that she lived to see a great-grandchild! And now you have another grandchild on the way, which is a true blessing.

dianne said...

i grieve with you ... and i celebrate with you

Jean said...

Hugs to all of you. It's a very moving thing to share your sorrow and happiness here.

How wonderful that your mum lived to such a great age and knew her great-grandson and was fully aware and relating to you all up until so close to the end of her life.

None of which makes it any less heart-rending and painful for you to watch her die and to lose her presence in your life. Please take good care of yourself and let your husband and daughters and son take lots of care of you while you mourn your mother.

Relatively Retiring said...

I hope your mother's death was peaceful, and that the presence of your new grandchild will bring much joy at a sad time.
What a mixture life can be.

Kristi in the Western Reserve said...

I grieve with you on the death of your mother, but am rejoicing with you on the grandchild in the very beginning of life. Volume 2 is a lovely name for him/her!

Peace to you all.

LynneFtWorth said...

I am so sorry for your loss. I know you did all you could to keep her comfortable and at peace.

Congratulations on your grandbaby.

Deanna

Jan said...

I don't think I can express it better than Jean. So very sorry about your mother, and I can imagine the mixed emotions.

Please take care of yourself and let others take care of you too.

Jan x

Mac n' Janet said...

It does indeed go on, and your Mom lives on in you and all of your family.

Joan said...

Oh, my dear... And so it goes indeed, such a tumult of heartbreak and happiness at the same time.



Gillie said...

I am so glad you were both with her, as we were with my mum. And how lovely that Volume 2 came on the scene on the same day. Lots of love to all of you and blessings.

jkhenson said...

So sad that your mom is gone, but that you were with her and that she isn't suffering anymore is good. What wonderful news about Volume 2! :)) Congrats on a new baby making its way-such a mix of happy and sad news. Many hugs are being sent to you!

libby said...

Oh Isabelle.....not unexpected, but sad. I am glad you were with her...and glad you have volume 2 to look forward to. x

magsmcc said...

The exquisite circle of life.

Lynda said...

So sorry to read this, Isabelle. Your mum was a lovely lady and she obviously loved having her family around her, especially the joy that is Grandson. Please pass my congratulations to K and SIL.

patty said...

Isabelle, I'm so sorry for your loss!

the veg artist said...

Thinking of you at a time of such mixed emotions.

Lucy said...

So sorry Isabelle. Joy doesn't cancel out sorrow (any more than sorrow should cancel out joy), it just exists with it. 'Love makes the little thickness of the coin', and for sure you have plenty of that. Take good care and be kind to yourself, now and later on.

Molly said...

Oh dear....So sorry to hear your sad news. Glad you were there by her side. I hope she's singing with the angels!And look at that---she's already arranged for one of them to come down and fill that now-empty space in your family.The circle of life, a wondrous thing.

Jennifer said...

So sorry, Isabelle - while not unexpected, it's still sad. But you have the joy of new life to look forward to, and Grandson will be a Big Brother!

persiflage said...

My love to you and yours, and my sympathy. My heart aches for you, but how precious to be together at the beginning and end of her life and to have a new life starting.Look after yourself now.

Dartford Warbler said...

Sending love and sympathy Isabelle. Life is a strange thing. It is a blessing to have had your Mum for so many years, but the longer you were together, the harder it is to have lost her.
If Volume 2 brings as much love and happiness with him/her as Volume 1, then life will be brighter soon.x

Ali Honey said...

Dear Isabelle,
Please know I am sending you all sympathy and hugs. You can be glad that you know you did everything possible to make your Mum's last year or so as happy and comfortable as you could. She has been blessed having you all around her and seeing wee NJ through his first year.
Lucky you knowing Volume 2 is on the way. ( I live in hope of volume 1 - next year maybe )
Tears are wonderful cleansing things so be they of joy or sadness they serve a purpose.
Wishing you strength for the next few days especially...... give her a wonderful send off for a long and amazing life.
Also wishing Daughter 1 good health for the next few months.

herhimnbryn said...

Thinking of you and yours.

Anonymous said...

You have been very much in my thoughts lately, and will be even more so over the next few days. As others have said much better than I can, take care of yourself as best you can. Adding my sympathy, hugs and congratulations to all the others posting here.

Clarissa x

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Nora said...

So sorry to hear this.... sending lots of warm hugs .. Please take care of each other x x

Lynley said...

I'm so sorry about your mother. Always a shock, and difficult, no matter what your age or the lead-up to it.

Lizzie T said...


My deepest sympathy to you and your family.

Shauna said...

Oh Isabelle... I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum. I can only imagine the mixed emotions. And so happy to hear about Volume 2, please pass on my congratulations.

Sending lots of big hugs from across the Forth.

love those cupcakes said...

Such sad news about your mum.

Such good news about Vol 2.

Take care.

The Lass said...

Sending you lots of big hugs! I am so sorry. Thinking of you and yours - and I am happy to read about Volume 2.

willowcaroline said...

Life and death. Joy and sorrow. Beginning and end. Without the one, we cannot have the other. Wishing you peace as you move through mourning and grief.

Fire Bird said...

thinking of you

Meg said...

Thinking of you, sorrow and joy intertwined - thank you for putting up the beautiful photo of your Mum and Vol.1, truly lovely. Congratulations to your daughter and SIL.

Amy said...

Joy and sadness at the same time, truly the stuff life is made of. My sympathy on the death of your Mother and my congratulations on the new life.

Lucille said...

As one goes out another comes in. What an enormous step it seems through the door in either direction and yet really it isn't. We just forget.

Gina E. said...

ditto to all the above.
hugs
Gina

Rosemary Riveter said...

So sorry for your loss. Your family is in my thoughts, with best wishes for healing & for a healthy Volume Two!

VioletSky said...

This is always a shock. So sorry for your loss.
Mixed emotions aplenty, I'm sure.

Fairlie said...

Isabelle, I'm so sorry to read about your Mum. Such a time of mixed emotions. Thinking of you. xxx

Stomper Girl said...

I'm very sorry to hear about your Mother. You were a good daughter to her.

I am glad to hear abou volume 2 though, some happy days ahead.

Cx

Suse said...

Oh what a mix of emotions. Thinking of you all, please send my congratulations to K.

Linds said...

Oh, Isabelle, I didn't know. I have not had a working computer for the entire month. I am so sad for you all and yet so in awe of the way life moves on, with a new grandbaby on its way. I am sending a huge hug, my friend.

Kirsty said...

Ah, my dear Isabelle, I have been unblogging for too many weeks and have only just read this post. My love to you and hugs, too. Your mum was so precious to you, I know. I have no doubt that she felt very loved.